What You Really Really Want

June 11th - July 2nd

Knowing what you want is hard.

In fact, when I tell people that I help people ask for what they want, the #1 response I get is “I don’t even know what that is!”

There are so many reasons why discerning your desire might be challenging for you:

  • Maybe your strategy has been to focus all your time, attention and energy on other people’s wants and whims and hope that eventually, maybe they’ll figure yours out too? (Um, hi, that was me!)
  • Perhaps you get overwhelmed by all the people and all the things they want… It’s so much that you can’t hear what you want in all of that. (You’re definitely not alone in that!)
  • Or you get stuck on on what’s ‘acceptable’ or ‘reasonable’ to want (Yep, I’ve been there too!)
  • Maybe you’ve been in survival mode for so long that you can’t remember doing things for pleasure or fun. (…Hello pandemic!)
  • Or you had a family or relationship where your wants were constantly shut down or seen as a problem… so you learned not to have any. (You just described at least 73% of the people I work with.)

But what if It’s not about “knowing” or “figuring out” what you want?

What if your desires aren’t out there somewhere, hoping to be realized someday?

What if discerning your preferences and desires is a skill — one that can be learned?

What if the secret was just in noticing them… over and over, right now?

Being able to notice (and trust) your desires and preferences in real-time is a practice. And it's MAGICAL.

Hearing (really hearing) your own needs and wants — in the moment — means you can actually (finally!) get them met.

Tuning into what you really want (not just what you think you can get) is how you can start to expand your relationships and your life.

Making space for your desires is how you can start to get to know what they are and how they work.

Your preferences, desires, and wants are happening all the time, including right now.

It just takes practice noticing, trusting, and listening to them.

That's what we do in What You Really Really Want.

In this 4-week virtual course, you’ll learn:

  • How to identify what gets in the way of you noticing your desires (and what to do about it!)
  • The difference between wants and needs (and why that may not matter as much as you think)
  • Tools and techniques to open up your options to see what you really want (not just what you think you can get)
  • Why it doesn’t matter if you “deserve” something
  • How to use what you don't want to get clarity about what you do want
  • Simple practices you can use any time to discern what you really want — especially on desires that are hidden just out of view
  • 2 games to play with loved ones to make talking about desires fun
  • How to apply all of this to what you want in the bedroom, in your relationships and in your life in general
  • And much more!

What this is not 👇

This is not a goal-setting or bucket-list workshop. You won't be told about what you "should" want. And you definitely won't learn how to convince yourself that you actually want something that you don't want.

This is about developing practices that will serve you in noticing, trusting, and valuing your preferences and desires, in the moment — no matter what they are or what you are doing.

You get:

  • 28 daily prompts + practices showing you how to notice, trust and value your desires
  • Weekly opportunities to tune out the chatter of others’ voices and listen to your own true yearnings, preferences, and priorities.
  • 4 live coaching sessions to answer questions and support you along the way.
  • An archive of all the work we've done together so you can review whenever you want.

This course structure consists of:

👉🏻 28 days of writing prompts, embodied experiments, and reflection questions, in your inbox each day
👉🏻 Audio recordings of each lesson for your listening pleasure
👉🏻 4 Group coaching + coworking calls on Tuesdays, June 11th - July 2nd at 5:30 pm - 7:30 pm PDT
👉🏻 Recordings of each call
👉🏻 Using email, Teachable + Zoom
👉🏻 Homework: Light to medium

If it's time for you to uncover what YOU really, really want, join us for this transformative course. Doors close June 10th. Sign up today!


Your Instructor


Marcia Baczynski
Marcia Baczynski

Marcia Baczynski, aka Marcia B, (she/her) is an internationally-recognized coach, writer and presenter on sexual communication, boundaries, consent and desire. Her primary mission is to help adults who want more connection and intimacy to overcome shame and get in touch with what they truly want – romantically, sexually and relationally – even if it’s off the beaten path.

She is the co-author of Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators which can be purchased at most major booksellers.

Marcia brings wisdom, humor, and creativity to all aspects of her work, and offers a fresh perspective on love, sex and relationships. With expertise in boundaries, communication, open relationships, LGBTQ+ experiences and sex positivity, she helps her clients chart an authentic path for themselves. Since 2003, she has helped tens of thousands of people through her private coaching, workshops and group programs.


Frequently Asked Questions


Who is this course for?
This course is open to adults of any gender and sexual orientation who want to better understand their wants, needs and desires. It is an educational program, and not a substitute for therapy.
When does the course start and finish?
2024 June 6-July 3: Daily prompts + practices by email. 4 recorded coaching and co-working calls; Tuesdays, June 11, 18, 25 and July 2 from 5:30 pm – 7:30 pm PT (8:30 ET)
How long do I have access to the course materials?
Your access lasts for 120 days after the course ends - across any and all devices you own!
Where do the classes meet?
We meet on Zoom! You will get the link a few days before the first class. Each class will be recorded and uploaded to Teachable.
I'm a private person. Do I have to share my personal information in class?
The work we are doing together is really about self-reflection. While there will be plenty of opportunities to share insights and talk about discoveries during our meetings, it's all on your own terms. You do not have to share anything at all for all four weeks if you don't want to! You can ask questions anonymously, and participation is entirely optional. (You can even attend anonymously if that is a concern for you.)
What is the refund policy?
There are no refunds on this course. All Zoom calls are recorded and will be posted within 48 hours for you to watch on your own in case you have to miss a meeting. Please be sure you wish to purchase before doing so!

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